Where Does One Find Inspiration?

In accordance with my last post, these past two weeks alone I have focused on taking this new year and well, making it my bitch. HAHA.

What I mean by that is, along with physical health, I am focusing on mental health. Physically, I have set a weekly schedule for workouts. I have acknowledged the fact that I thrive more in a group setting rather than individually in a gym on my own time. Thus, I have taken the resources given to me by my university and planned out my weekly workout routine. Monday, Wednesday and Friday nights are dedicated to trying out a new type of class whether it be strength and flexibility training, yoga, pilates, or even kickboxing (which I have been dying to try for as long as I can remember). On top of these classes, I have also started pole fitness. Each Sunday and Tuesday I am partaking in beginner pole fitness classes. So far, I have only been to two but I have already fallen in love with the instructors, my fellow students and the amount of hard work, flexibility, strength, and dedication that it takes! If you are used to the same old routine, I suggest trying out something you’ve never in your life thought of doing because it may just turn out to be one of the best decisions, which was the case for me!

Mentally, I am working towards not letting the classes and massive amounts of schoolwork take over my life and my happiness. I work my ass off in school and last semester truly stole away my desire to pay attention to my mental health and make sure I am mentally stable. I focused solely on getting the best possible grade I could get whilst forgetting that there’s so much more to life than my GPA. In an attempt to focus on my well-being this semester, I have also begun guitar lessons.

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April of 2012. Right before my first guitar recital.

I haven’t discussed playing much, if at all, on my blog, but I got my first guitar when I was thirteen, took a couple lessons and then ended up quitting lessons to teach myself. With all the moving around from Indiana to Arizona and vice versa that I have done, my guitar hasn’t always followed me which made it hard to progress any furthur in my skills. After not playing for so long, I had also forgotten that guitar is a very helpful coping mechanism of mine for when I am upset, angry, or just dealing with stress and anxiety. I was able to find a student guitar teacher (who is an absolutely incredible musician) and within the first 2 lessons, I was learning how to finger pick several different songs, a skill I struggled with immensely when trying to teach myself. Currently, I am working on learning Blackbird by The Beatles. For those of you who don’t know, this is a pretty difficult song, but with practice makes perfect and I will get there at some point!

My reasoning for writing this post is to show myself that I am striving towards greatness and working my hardest to get there, but with all these classes and my busy schedule, blogging has been placed on the backburner and has led me into a rutt when it comes to creative writing. I have worked so hard to grow my follower base and now that I am starting to build it, my inspiration seems to be lost. Some posts flow better than others which is understandable, but I want so badly to keep a consistent blog with at least one post every week and that is something I will continue to work towards.

If any of my readers have some ideas on blog topics that you’d like to see or that you think would fit in well with my blog, I beg of you to let me know! Yes, I like to write simply for the joy of writing, but I also want to be sure my readers are interested and relating to what I am writing. Due to wanting this blog to be so relatable, I have opened up about many private situations and thoughts in my life, so if there’s something you are struggling with that you think I may have some advice on, please either comment on this post or go to the ‘Contact Me’ page and fill out the contact form because odds are, I have experienced something similar or can at least begin a discussion regarding that topic.

 

Plus, I’d simply just love some feedback from my amazing, supportive readers. Hope to hear from you ❤

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“New Year, New Me” YUCK

Every year, normally around mid-December up until the end of January, all I ever see on social media are New Year’s resolutions and the classic saying “New Year, New Me.” Don’t get me wrong, been there, done that, and I most definitely am NOT criticizing anyone who either this year or in the past has been guilty of saying those exact words. My question however is, why work to change ourselves for roughly 2 months out of the year? IN FACT, change is a bad word.

I personally don’t make resolutions to change or fix who I am, but rather to evolve into a better me.

And why should we evolve solely for two months out of the year when everyday we can strive for greatness, strive for progress, and strive to feel the most comfortable in our own skin?

It seems more and more nowadays that people are making these resolutions to “fix” themselves because they aren’t good enough the way they are. On top of that, the amount of criticism I see when people start going to the gym in the beginning of the year or start a new, healthier diet is so saddening. Our society as a whole needs to pull together and first, end the judgement of people striving for greatness and second, support each other, because I wholeheartedly believe that these resolutions end so quickly because of judgement and lack of comfort and support individuals recieve. You see someone at the gym who looks confused and nervous? Rather than posting an insulting snapchat or tweet, introduce yourself and maybe give them a couple workouts you enjoy doing. You see someone listing off their New Years resolutions online? Comment and tell them you believe in them and you’ll be there to support them along the way!

It’s so easy to be vicious and spiteful in a world filled with so much hate, but as the cliché saying goes…

“You are the change you want want to see in the world.”

 

I struggle with finding the silver linings in so many different situations, so I am not here to say this is the easiest thing in the world to do, nor am I saying that I am anywhere near an expert at doing so. What I am saying is that if we first work to recognize the flaws we possess and the hate we sometimes tend to put out into the world without any reason for doing so, then we can begin to work on first evolving into a person who radiates love, positivity, happiness and kindness, as well as a society that radiates love, positivity, happiness and kindness.

So yes, I have the typical resolutions such as going to the gym more and focusing on my well-being, both mentally and physically, but this year and each year following, I want to be the optimist. I want to be the person who searches for the silver lining in any given situation. And most of all, I want to be the person who radiates love, positivity, happiness and kindess. Personally, I believe that is someone EVERYONE should strive to be.

 

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Decadence Arizona 2018

HAPPY NEW YEAR MY BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLIES! WOW, I can’t believe I haven’t posted since last year, shame on me! LOL. I had the chance to enlighten ya’ll on my preparation process for festivals, Decadence AZ in particular, so I thought it would only make sense to do a recap on the event!

There’s so many different aspects of musical festivals that I love. Each festival is different and unique in its own ways and being that it was my first time attending Decadence AZ, I had no clue what was in store.

Music, Experience and Community

These three things are the things that go into making a festival great, but of course this is a personal opinion. In case you are wondering what I mean, I will go into a little detail…

  • Music is pretty self-explanatory. For the most part, I decide which festival I want to go to based on the lineup of artists they have that weekend. This festival immediately caught my eye the FIRST day the lineup was released because Skrillex, basically the king of electronic dance music, was making an appearance after a prolonged break for several years. On top of the legendary Skrillex, Rezz, my absolute favorite artist was also going to be playing along with several other amazing artists!
  • The experience plays into so many different festivals, some more than others. However, the experience is also in your own hands. Decadence had several carnival rides you could go on while in the venue and even some carnival foods such as funnel cakes and fried oreos to add to the “carnival-like experience.” Personally, the best experience for me tends to root from being around amazing people, listening to amazing music and not having a single care in the world!
  • The EDM community is such a respectful, loving and unified community and being a part of this community has not only helped me grow as a person, but has also helped me to branch out of my comfort zone and explore unknown territory. The community has an acronym: PLUR. You can think of PLUR as more of a lifestyle. It stands for Peace, Love, Unity & Respect. A majority of people who attend EDM festivals work their hardest to show and reciprocate PLUR, and in a world filled with hate, I think it is something we could all learn from.

 

I don’t want to go into too much depth about my dislikes of this festival because truthfully, the pros outweighed the cons and I still had an amazing time despite the disorganized event, HOWEVER I will say that this was the most overcrowded event I’ve ever been to and because of the overcrowding, there were many people at the event who were disrespectful and had no sense of PLUR. I don’t have control over them or their actions so I didn’t let it ruin my weekend because as I said above, the pros of being around loved ones and dancing to amazing music outweighed the assholes who have no idea what the words “excuse me” means.

What was my favorite part?

There were so many moments throughout the weekend that will be a forever memory, although I’d have to say that my favorite part of the weekend was when the new year started! Shaquille O’Neal (yes the basketball player) has recently gotten into EDM and calls himself DJ Diesel. Well DJ Diesel brought us into 2019 by playing some FILTHY dubstep, making me almost break my neck from headbanging so much, and even bringing out Kobe Bryant onto stage? WHAT?! Not many can say that they started the new year making extremely ugly bassface with Shaq. On top of that craziness, since my boyfriend was unable to make it to this festival with me, I got to exchange a New Year’s kiss with my absolute best friend under the mistletoe. How cute right?

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Despite any organization errors and the crappy weather, I got to spend every second of the weekend with some beautiful people enjoying amazing music. It was such a memorable New Years and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

If you have ever considered attending a music festival even in the slightest, IM TELLING YOU TO GO FOR IT! Paying for a festival isn’t just paying for a weekend of fun, it’s paying for a lifetime of memories and friendships.

If you have any questions related to EDM or festivals, I’d be happy to answer them in the comments or in my contact form!

 

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NOVEMBER RECAP

Hey there my little snow bunnies. ♡ Wow, November has really flown by! In all honesty, I can easily say it was a very uneventful month, but I want to be sure to acknowledge and appreciate even the smallest of events each month.

DAD AND BROSKI CAME TO TOWN

  • Having half of my family living across the country is definitely hard, so I try to soak up as much quality time as possible with them when they are in town, whether it be staying in playing board games or going out and stuffing our faces with some tasty grub.

WHAT CAN I SAY? I’M A BASKETBALL GIRL

  • Love my school and love supporting my school, which means I love putting on my Hoosier gear and going to basketball games! Don’t get me wrong, football season is great and all (aka tailgating), but there’s just something about being able to keep track of the ball and know what’s going on in the game that makes basketball much more appealing to me HA.

THANKSGIVING FESTIVITIES

  • This Thanksgiving was much different from prior Thanksgivings in the fact that my loving mother invited anyone from our work who didn’t have a place to go on Thanksgiving over to our place to have a HUGE, extremely delicious meal!

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FRIENDS

  • Forever grateful for the people who choose to be in my life and I believe they always deserve recognition. Huge shoutout to Nathanial who has always made an effort to be in my life, even if it means asking his mother to drive him 2 hours to my house because his car is ass.

MY MANS

  • Jackson turned 21 this month! How exciting right?! So he took a whole day off work and we enjoyed each other’s company (just as we always do). Here’s a cute picture of when I forced him to do face masks with me!AB852B60-C1D7-44D6-8A14-DA4B5DD1323A

PUPPY LOVE

  • Hershey came into my life as a puppy a couple weeks before I moved to Bloomington and each time I see him, he’s doubled in size. I am sure to soak in all of his cuddles and puppy kisses when I get to see him!

I GOT A KITTY

  • Had to save the best for last. After looking for a sweet kitty to adopt all month and having a couple let downs, I got blessed with the sweetest, most loving kitty ever. I’d like you guys to meet Littlefoot, or littles or meow meow or cuteness or mamas or whiskers for short. She loves attention, back rubs, tummy rubs, treats and making love to my fuzzy bathrobe. I couldn’t of asked for a better kitty to call mine ♡

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Despite not having a very eventful month, I most definitely can say it was a good one! So much to be grateful for. That is one reason I genuinely enjoy doing Monthly Recap posts. Before starting this post, I questioned what I would talk about because much of this month seemed like a blur due to the stress of finals coming up, but after looking back at the pictures and trying to recollect, I was able to remember all of the good that came out of this month.

I encourage each and every one of you to do this as well at the end of each month. I am guilty of letting the negative aspects of life override all of the positive aspects and given how easy it is to do, I am sure many of ya’ll are guilty of it as well. Work with me in breaking this bad habit! Work with me in recognizing even the smallest aspects of life that give you joy.

Together, lets consistently strive to have the positive aspects of life towering high over the negative aspects.

 

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Finding Thanks in Everything…Even the Little Things

Hello my little pumpkins! For me, November is a month where I find it necessary to take a step back and be grateful for even the smallest of things we take for granted on a daily basis. It’s so easy to overlook being grateful for things that are so easily attainable in today’s world. I wanted to use this post not only to give thanks, but to spread awareness that much of what we are used to, much of what we take for granted, are things that are far from accessible in other countries, let alone for many families in this country.

So take a step back…

What are some of the basic necessities you have in your life that others mays struggle to obtain?

  • Food?
  • Water?
  • A home?
  • A loving family?
  • A good job?
  • An education?

The list could go on and on and of course answers will differ for each person, but one thing remains the same.

EACH AND EVERYONE OF US ARE BLESSED IN OUR OWN KIND OF WAY.

When I was in elementary school, my mother traveled to Tanzania, Africa for a 3 week mission trip. She came home with souvenirs, pictures and some amazing memories. I distinctly remember a picture of several children huddled up in a big circle with the biggest smiles on each and every one of their faces. My mom said something that resonated with me from that day on.

These children are living with close to nothing. They struggle to find food, some are lacking in education, and the ones lacking education live their days fulfilling hard labor chores necessary for them and their family to survive. Despite lacking what may seem like “necessities,” each and every day these children find a reason to smile. A reason to laugh. A reason to be grateful for this life they have been given.

We live in a world FILLED with instant gratification. So much to the point that without a sense of instant gratification, our patience wears thin. So let’s all take this day not only to be appreciative of all the little things we take for granted on a daily basis, but to take a step back and recognize the extent of how truly blessed we are in our lives – simply to be living.

I’d like for you to come up with a list of 10 things you are grateful for and after this day, continue to remind yourself of this list because despite Thanksgiving being over after today, we shall remain grateful for this life we have been given.

  1. My family
  2. My boyfriend
  3. My friends
  4. My apartment
  5. My education at IU
  6. Food on the table for every meal
  7. My ability to travel back and forth between Indiana and Arizona
  8. My puppers Hershey
  9. Music
  10. And even though they are under the category of family, I want to emphasize how appreciative I am for my parents. Their unconditional love is what has gotten me to where I am now and I will forever be grateful to have such incredible role models in my life

 

I hope you all have an amazing, mashed potato and turkey filled day. Know that I am so very grateful for each and every one of you as well. Happy Thanksgiving! ♡

 

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Whats the Key to Success? Learn to be a Quitter

Hi everyone! I stumbled across this post from BossBabe.com and oddly enough, it is exactly what I needed to hear. Don’t you love when you read something and you feel like it’s speaking exactly to you and your current situation? I wanted to share with all of you in hopes that maybe, it hits home for you just as it did for me!

“WINNERS NEVER QUIT AND QUITTERS NEVER WIN,” RIGHT?

If you grew up hearing this popular saying, you’re not alone. Maybe it was your soccer coach at your first big game, a parent helping you with homework, or a teacher helping you learn a new skill.

They all encouraged you never to quit, because quitting was equivalent to giving up and giving up meant you didn’t have enough confidence or drive to succeed.

And, to an extent, they’re right. Giving up isn’t good. But quitting, CAN be.

As we get older, it becomes harder to distinguish quitting from failure.

But go with me here…

Quitting is NOT failure.

Quitting is pivoting into something else.

IN LIFE, IN YOUR CAREER, IN A RELATIONSHIP, TRY TO THINK LESS ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE QUITTING FROM AND MORE ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE QUITTING TOWARD.

UK survey found that 6 out of 10 people stay in relationships they don’t find fulfilling. 5 out of 10 people stay in jobs they’re unhappy with, according to a study completed by the Conference Board. Both surveys found that many people stayed in unhappy situations because they consider leaving to be a failure. What if what comes next is better than what’s you’ve left behind?

Are you quitting to move on to something better? Are you quitting to improve your personal or mental health? Are you quitting because the current situation no longer serves you?  Being afraid of quitting, could literally be blocking you from starting that new business, going back to school, moving to a new city or embarking on a new career journey. If you’re still unsure, run through this quick checklist below:

HERE’S 5 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU QUIT:

  1. Is my happiness more important than complacency?
  2. Could there be something better on the other side?
  3. Am I making a decision to stay out of fear?
  4. Am I ready to take the consequences?
  5. Do I believe in myself?

If you answered “yes” to most of these, its time to QUIT.

Knowing when to quit or leave something behind is a crucial step toward a brighter, happier, more fulfilled life. So I want you to embrace quitting. You never know what’s waiting for you on the other side.

 

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When the Silver Lining is Nonexistent

Normally, I can find the silver lining on a majority of bad situations. Maturity has helped me to recognize that sometimes losing something or someone is for the better. But what happens when you feel like you’ve hit the point of no return?

College for most people is finding life-long friends and soaking up every second of young adulthood, but what happens when it seems as if I am losing more friends than gaining? What happens when the supposed friends I do have, have more interest in what seems like everything else BUT me? Now of course, I know I am not the only one going through this and I’m not going to sit here and whine and complain about issues that I’m sure everyone faces at least once in their life, but now the question arises, where do I go from here and how do I keep from experiencing these feelings in the future?

Self-reflection of course is necessary because I’m not going to sit here and blame my issues on everyone else, but there has to be something more, doesn’t there? In all honesty, I don’t know what I am searching for in writing this, but I do know that writing is one thing that helps me to self-reflect and fully recognize and acknowledge all of the feelings I am experiencing.

Life is a series of lessons and a majority of the time, those lessons are brutal and take time to understand. I am aware that I am in the middle of one of those lessons as we speak, but how do I understand the lesson before its learned. What is the goal in my suffering? In my loneliness? Only time can tell.

So for now, I will focus on taking this pain and turning it into strength. I will fixate my attention on the positives in my life rather than dwell on the negatives. I will appreciate all that I do have and I will tackle each day as it comes because that’s all I really can do.

We all have bad days. So while I am in the midst of one, I want to remind you that if you are having a bad day, remember its a bad day, not a bad life. Cliché I know, but life is most definitely an obstacle course and we are just along for the ride. Wow, I am just a book of clichés right now, be that as it may, work with me in taking charge of your life. Work with me in reminding yourself that these difficult times will pass because as I had said before, these lessons may be brutal but the outcome is bright. With pain and heartache lies strength and beauty.

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OCTOBER RECAP

The month of October always seems to be filled with an equal amount of fun and stress for the most part. It’s hard to not be excited when the leaves and temperature start to change, but of course that doesn’t make up for the stress associated with midterms. Looking back, I’d say despite the weeks being filled with non-stop homework and studying, I was able to make up for it by filling my weekends up with friends and fun. So rather than dwelling on stress, I am going to appreciate what an exciting month it has been!

TAILGATE, TAILGATE, TAILGATE

  • Whether you’re a huge fan of college football or not, representing your school and enjoying the company of others while making new friends is ALWAYS fun!

FRIEND TIME

  • Weekdays are constant classes, homework and studying so it’s hard to not cherish quality time spent with friends over the weekends!

REHASHING OLD FRIENDSHIPS AND CHERISHING THE LOVE OF MY LIFE

  • Of course cherishing Jackson and time spent with Jackson is an everyday occurrence, BUT I had the chance to reconnect with an old highschool bestie while she captured the love that Jackson and I share in some absolutely gorgeous photos!

HALLOWEEN WAS OUT OF THIS WORLD

  • My Halloween was celebrated the weekend prior but that doesn’t change the fun of dressing up, going all out and thriving on the SPOOKY.

It’s so easy to let stress eat away at our happiness, yet so important to cherish the friends, family, and good times that we do have! So take a moment to appreciate all of the positives in your life.

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Social Media Experiment – SOCIAL MEDIA ISN’T EVERYTHING

HI GUYS! So two weeks ago I decided I wanted to take a little social media break and observe how I felt throughout that time. I wanted to remind myself that social media is not the most important thing in my life and I wanted to take that chance to not only build friendships/relationships, but create them as well! Well here I am, two weeks later in good spirits, knowing that my social media break was most definitely needed. As I reflect, I wanted all of you to be aware of the benefits of taking a step back and recognizing the negative impact that social media has on our lives and our well-being.

What did I do best utilize my time?

  • I made DELICIOUS dinners with my Jackson.
  • I went on walks with Jackson and explored the town that we have lived in for several months now but still barely know (LOL).
  • I cleaned the apartment…a lot.
  • I was able to fully focus on my homework without worrying about what was new on my social media.
  • I did some fun DIY projects from Pinterest.
  • Jackson and I made new couple friends in our apartment complex!! (Our first couple friends! How exciting!)
  • I went tailgating with new friends and enjoyed the crisp fall air.
  • I tried to soak in every moment spent with Jackson and friends.

Why is a social media break important?

It’s hard to notice the negative effects that social media has on our lives when it is constantly available to us. So my goal in taking a social media break was to merely acknowledge, without judgement (using mindfulness), how much of my day is stolen from me because of social media. Rather than avoiding an awkward silence by shoving my face in my phone, in a sense, I was forced to make conversation, which my generation is not the greatest at. Face-to-face interaction is such an important part of our lives as social creatures and thats something we tend to forget because of social media.

My challenge to YOU

I challenge you to take the step not only in bettering your mental health and well-being, but to rediscover and reevaluate what truly matters in your life with the absence of social media, whether it be family, relationships, friendships, hobbies, school, etc. You may come to find, like I did, that we place such an emphasis on the importance of social media, but without it, life will still go on. I didn’t miss my social media like I thought I would, in fact, it was refreshing, like a weight lifted off of my shoulders.

So take that step! 

Do something GOOD for your mental health and your well-being.

PUT YOURSELF FIRST! YOU DESERVE IT!

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Long Distance Sucks

Isn’t is crazy how quickly relationships can be built? Or even crazier, how quickly a relationship that used to be so strong, can diminish when distance separates the two? I’ve been lucky enough to stumble across a select few relationships/friendships in the past couple years that are worth fighting for when distance comes into play. I full-heartedly believe that a friendship is 50/50 and there truly is no point in fighting for a friendship if the other person is giving you any less than 50%. However, when it comes to long distance friendships, sometimes that isn’t always the case. Life gets in the way, it always does, and it tends to get in the way at different times for different people. Some people at my age are busy in college, others are busy working, and some are even beginning their little families. Despite the different stages all of us are in, sometimes life just takes over. And when in comes to having a long distance friendship, those days in the past where you felt nothing but stress and anxiety and you end up eating an entire tub of ice cream and bitching about life with your best friend turn into you coming home, getting done what needs to be done, and sleeping the stress away. Those long conversations on the phone that you had every day turn into once every week until slowly you start to realize its been over a month since you last talked on the phone. The conversations may dwindle down, but the love I have for the individual and the friendship we’ve built does not. “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” We’ve all heard the saying, and yes, in some cases that is true but in others, distance makes you forget how grateful you are to have such amazing relationships/friendships in your life whether they are 5 miles away or 5,000. So I wanted to write this post as a daily reminder to myself that I have not only gained amazing friendships, but I have gained friendships that are worth fighting for 110%. If anyone reading this is struggling to keep a long distance friendship or relationship alive, take some time to reminisce. Remind yourself of all the amazing memories shared with that person. Randomly give them a call just to tell them you appreciate them. Send them a care package to let them know you are thinking about them. You WILL know when a relationship is worth fighting for, so in those rare occurrences when you find a keeper, cherish them and the relationship ya’ll have built because nowadays, it truly is hard to find the keepers.

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